In my 30 something years I have learned a lot, I have met some amazing people who have shaped my journey on this planet, I have changed careers a few times, I have travelled, fallen in and out of love, I have made to many mistakes to count but as I sit here writing this I know I am exactly where I am meant to be. I wanted to share with you some life lessons I have learned on my journey to the dirty 30’s.
1. Finding your passion is important
Find something that aligns with your principles and desires, not just in the work force but in life in general.
2. Don’t sweat the small stuff, take risks and be unapologetically you
We are all guilty of getting worked up about things that at the time seem so huge but are in fact trivial. Have faith that you are on the right journey and that everything happens for a reason, take risks, put yourself out of your comfort zone. Some of the most amazing things I have done in my life have been because I took a chance on something my heart told me to do.
3. Relationships matter
Every relationship matters whether its friendships, romance or work. Treat people the way you would like to be treated, don’t take people for granted and call your parents more, they love you more than anyone on this planet.
4. It’s OK not to know what you want to be when you grow up
It’s taken me until 30 to realise what I wanted to do for a career, many times I thought I was on the right path and then BOOM I realised I was in fact in a job to make my parents happy or for status amongst peers. Do you, be yourself and work towards goals that will get you to where you want to be.
5. You will have your heart broken, many times
Love. That 4 letter word that can either have us feeling on top of the world or destroy us. Let me tell you, you must first love yourself before you can give yourself to anyone else. Be strong, be you and you will find the right people will enter your life at exactly the right time.
6. Don’t underestimate the importance of health
This is an easy one, guys, without your health you have nothing. Focus on giving back and nurturing your body and mind.
7. The friends you have now may not be your friends in a few years
And that’s OK. We grow, change and sometimes in the process leave people behind. Most people come into our lives to teach us lessons, you will work out quite quickly who are the ones who should stay.
8. Your past does not control your future
You cannot change the past but what you can do is focus on the future. That is wholeheartedly yours to run with. So make good choices, strive for happiness and surround yourself with people who lift you higher.
9. Save some money
Look I am all about memories over money, work hard, enjoy your youth and travel but make sure you have savings for a rainy day.
10. Don’t get a credit card with a huge limit
Me at 18; FREE money! You mean I can have a card with $5,000 limit and pay it back whenever?! I’ve moved that damn debt around for years, the money isn’t free, it accumulates interest and no matter how much you tell yourself you will pay it back, chances are you won’t. Keep your limits low or better yet just get a debit card which double as a CC but it’s your own money. Genius right.
11. People may not remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.
Whether you believe in Karma or not it is important to be a good human. Give up your seat on the bus for the elderly gentleman, be kind to strangers and warm to those you love. Your actions imprint on those around you much more than you realise.
12. Make your bed
The state of your bed is the state of your head. No idea where I heard that one but it makes perfect sense.
13.Routine is very important
Routine used to terrify me, I found the same menial tasks to be quite a bore in my 20’s but as I got older I realised routine is VERY important. Routine takes the guess work out of where you should be and what you should be doing. Set days/times that you will do certain tasks on a weekly basis and stick to it, routine is your friend if you use it properly.
14. Some people suck
There is no getting around it, sometimes you will meet people you don’t gel with and that’s OK. Just be aware and remove anyone or anything from your life that doesn’t make you happy or service your needs.
15. If you love hard, don’t apologise for your super power
This is one of my favourite sayings of all time. I am a lover, a hopeless romantic and this is possibly the reason I am still single. I will not settle for mediocre in anything, especially in love and you shouldn’t either.